To Support a Grieving Family

To support a grieving family…

After losing a loved one, family members mostly feel anxious and may deal with their grief in distinctive ways. So, grief may tie families closer together. However, sometimes it may pull them apart. Thus far, no one may adequately prepare to cope with their grief. It’s even more difficult with a spouse’s or a child’s grief. So, learning about grief is important. Learn how it may affect your family can be helpful. It may help get over the challenging times together a little easier. Thus far, it may help the family grow stronger.

Response and reaction

When you are grieving, the world appears to be in a state of chaos. Depending on the severity of grief, it may challenge your beliefs. Thus far, it may throw your life in turmoil and disrupt your routines. In fact, it becomes unpredictable as to how you may react when a loved one dies. Thus far, many things may affect your reactions to your loss. So, you may want to know how the person passed away. You may recall how you coped with other losses if you have had them. The kind of relationship you may have had with the person may affect you too. Hence, the new loss may bring back memories of your earlier losses. So, you may grieve again.

So, people express grief in their own peculiar way. Hence, there are as many means to grieve as there are people. It is unique. A grieving person responds differently because dealing with a death is an extremely stressful time. So, it is normal. Thus far, you may feel like riding on a roller coaster of emotions.

Gender, children, and culture reaction

So, guys mostly like to express grief over physical activities. They may take an active path to handle their grief. For example, they may organise an event to honour the deceased or plant a tree.

Whereas, girls like to share their feelings with others. They often cry more openly. Women can cry more easily than men do. So far, women are more comfortable talking about what is happening.

Children’s responses depend on their age, their parents’ response, and development level. The younger people may not know that the deceased will not come back. However, the older children may realise that the person is gone forever. They may still find it painful to accept this fact.

In view of different cultural societies, they may express their grief with rituals and ceremonies. They may have different respectful rites. However, these are only leanings. Thus far, most people may draw from their behaviour and culture. So far, there is no right way or any agenda on how and when to grieve. It is important to know this and support each other in moments of need.

Child’s perspective

All parents must protect their children from the pain of loss due to a death in the family. So, be careful about your protective instincts. Otherwise, it may make it more difficult for children to grieve. Children may experience loneliness and chaos by losing a loved one. They mostly have other understanding about the end of life.

You must keep them informed of happenings. Let them know they are not alone in regard to how they feel. It is your responsibility to be a role model in sharing how to grieve. Thus far, sharing your own sorrow may help give them comfort. You must help them to understand the meaning of someone dying. This is the real way they may appreciate what happens.

So, it may be an appropriate time to explain what happens to the body of the loved one. Choosing the correct words is crucial. Hence, explain the body, after death does not feel anything. So, explaining the family’s spiritual beliefs helps too. You may give specific thinking to explain the final resting place. Thus far, explain the burial or cremation process to give clarity. Avoid creating fear. You must reassure children that they will be okay. Children may fear for their own safety when they lose a loved one. So, it is natural for them to fear that their parents may die too.

Healing pathway

So far, the family will resolve their grief at different times and in distinctive ways. The grieving process never fits a schedule. Hence, healing from the death of a loved one may take a long time. It will depend on the person. Professionals say to adjust to the loss of a spouse may take years. Hence, children who lose a parent may grieve over a period of time in explosions.

Thus far, soon after losing a loved you may feel normal. However, it may be only for a few hours at a time. Sooner or later, you may have good days. Over a period of time, you may start looking forward to the future with hope. It is important to accept the loss. So, it does not mean that you have forgotten your loved one. It is a critical point that you must stress to children. If you remember this important aspect, it may help you better to move on in life.

Normal reactions

It is a normal reaction on hearing of the death of a loved one to go in shock. So, shock may affect for a few days or maybe for a number of weeks. When you experience shock, you may feel empty, sick, dizzy, or numb. You may go through many unexpected emotions too. These are a result of shock. It is a completely common reaction. So, you may not be able to control and there is nothing wrong.

It may lead you into complete disbelief about what has occurred. You may not feel anything in the initial stages. It is a common reaction. However, you may later experience different emotions.

To deal with the loss

It may help to talk about the person who passed away. You may use the person’s name. Telling stories and expressing what the person may mean to you helps too. Thus far, spend time with your old friends and make new friends too. Keeping yourself socially active may help.

You need to accept changes in your family traditions and culture. Mostly, family roles change too. They key to all is to respect the personal grieving process. Hence, you must be mindful not to fit your emotions to other people’s expectations.  Give the same respect to other’s grief process too.

 

Grief Recovery

Grief management…

Grief is recognised as a natural and reasonable reaction to a loss. It may be a cause of death, loss of work, or the end of a relationship. There may be other life events that often invoke grief. Thus far, grief is mostly misunderstood. It is a subject that people don’t talk about. Recovery may mean contrasting things to different people. The word itself may bother certain people. Thus far, people often relate to negative issues.

Disease or addiction

Grief is neither a disease nor an addiction. Thus far most people may associate grief recovery with abuse challenges. They often relate it to drug or alcohol addiction. It may be easier to explain that grief recovery is not counselling, therapy, or a different treatment.

Most people who suffer grief may react to ‘recovery’ with anger. They may claim ‘one can’t recover from a loss’. Furthermore, they may utter words to the effect ‘I will never be the same anymore.’ In essence, there are many ways you may help yourself to recover. Hence, you need to explore grief recovery methods. In fact, you need to learn how to move on in life beyond death, separation, and other life tragedies.

Grief recovery institute

Grief Recovery Institute (Australia & New Zealand) is set up to help people to learn the Grief Recovery Methods. With its office in East Victoria Park in Western Australia, it created a series of purposeful articles and videos on grief recovery methods.

Thus far, the institute has developed Grief Recovery Method Certification training courses. You may love this training if you regularly work with grievers. The training package is far-reaching with a mixture of practical experience and classroom lessons. Thus far, they provide continual specific support as well as learning materials. Hence, this training course is intensely famous with counsellors, funeral professionals, and mental health workers. Furthermore, allied health workers, clergy regardless of their faith, and many other professionals benefit from it.

Moreover, a few professional bodies globally recognise the certification. So, training as a Grief Recovery Specialist may help bring the eminently effective program to even more people.

Memories

The memories may be good, and they may be bad. Regardless of this, you will never ever forget relevant people in your life. Thus far, they may be a spouse, a child, a family member or any person you had an emotional attachment with. So, when a loved one passes away, your love for them may never fade away or you don’t forget them.

So, the question is, if these emotions never go away, is recovery possible? The definition of recovery in this situation may be open to academic debate. So, it is critical to establish the meaning before you attempt to describe the grief recovery process. Thus far, many grievers experience there is very little meaningful help is available for them to cope.

What may be the problem

While grief may be a natural affection, the problem becomes that most of the community teachings are academic. Thus far, our family, friends, and too many professionals try to fix emotions with logical arguments. Sadly, this happens every day.

For instance, if a loved one dies, people may say ‘no need to worry, the person is out of suffering or pain. The latter part of the statement may be true; however, it is emotionally empty. In fact, they moved the subject from your emotions to the person who passed away.

Thus far, such comments are unhelpful. At times they are hurtful despite it was said with the best of intentions.

The myths

Over the years, working with many grievers it identifies six myths about in association with a loss. Thus, they are almost universal. These myths are that time heals all wounds, replaces the loss, grieve alone, be strong, keep busy, and don’t feel bad. Thus far, the truth that all-time may do is pass. It is your actions during that time that matters. So, it determines how well you recover. The grief recovery methods may help you correct the actions. Thus, you don’t need to wait in pain.

Solution

People will tell you to let go and move on with life. However, they may not tell you how. As such The Grief Recovery Method Action Program makes it possible and provides a partnership.

To find your nearest Grief Recovery specialist, please call us on 1800 763 538

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