To Support a Grieving Family

To support a grieving family…

After losing a loved one, family members mostly feel anxious and may deal with their grief in distinctive ways. So, grief may tie families closer together. However, sometimes it may pull them apart. Thus far, no one may adequately prepare to cope with their grief. It’s even more difficult with a spouse’s or a child’s grief. So, learning about grief is important. Learn how it may affect your family can be helpful. It may help get over the challenging times together a little easier. Thus far, it may help the family grow stronger.

Response and reaction

When you are grieving, the world appears to be in a state of chaos. Depending on the severity of grief, it may challenge your beliefs. Thus far, it may throw your life in turmoil and disrupt your routines. In fact, it becomes unpredictable as to how you may react when a loved one dies. Thus far, many things may affect your reactions to your loss. So, you may want to know how the person passed away. You may recall how you coped with other losses if you have had them. The kind of relationship you may have had with the person may affect you too. Hence, the new loss may bring back memories of your earlier losses. So, you may grieve again.

So, people express grief in their own peculiar way. Hence, there are as many means to grieve as there are people. It is unique. A grieving person responds differently because dealing with a death is an extremely stressful time. So, it is normal. Thus far, you may feel like riding on a roller coaster of emotions.

Gender, children, and culture reaction

So, guys mostly like to express grief over physical activities. They may take an active path to handle their grief. For example, they may organise an event to honour the deceased or plant a tree.

Whereas, girls like to share their feelings with others. They often cry more openly. Women can cry more easily than men do. So far, women are more comfortable talking about what is happening.

Children’s responses depend on their age, their parents’ response, and development level. The younger people may not know that the deceased will not come back. However, the older children may realise that the person is gone forever. They may still find it painful to accept this fact.

In view of different cultural societies, they may express their grief with rituals and ceremonies. They may have different respectful rites. However, these are only leanings. Thus far, most people may draw from their behaviour and culture. So far, there is no right way or any agenda on how and when to grieve. It is important to know this and support each other in moments of need.

Child’s perspective

All parents must protect their children from the pain of loss due to a death in the family. So, be careful about your protective instincts. Otherwise, it may make it more difficult for children to grieve. Children may experience loneliness and chaos by losing a loved one. They mostly have other understanding about the end of life.

You must keep them informed of happenings. Let them know they are not alone in regard to how they feel. It is your responsibility to be a role model in sharing how to grieve. Thus far, sharing your own sorrow may help give them comfort. You must help them to understand the meaning of someone dying. This is the real way they may appreciate what happens.

So, it may be an appropriate time to explain what happens to the body of the loved one. Choosing the correct words is crucial. Hence, explain the body, after death does not feel anything. So, explaining the family’s spiritual beliefs helps too. You may give specific thinking to explain the final resting place. Thus far, explain the burial or cremation process to give clarity. Avoid creating fear. You must reassure children that they will be okay. Children may fear for their own safety when they lose a loved one. So, it is natural for them to fear that their parents may die too.

Healing pathway

So far, the family will resolve their grief at different times and in distinctive ways. The grieving process never fits a schedule. Hence, healing from the death of a loved one may take a long time. It will depend on the person. Professionals say to adjust to the loss of a spouse may take years. Hence, children who lose a parent may grieve over a period of time in explosions.

Thus far, soon after losing a loved you may feel normal. However, it may be only for a few hours at a time. Sooner or later, you may have good days. Over a period of time, you may start looking forward to the future with hope. It is important to accept the loss. So, it does not mean that you have forgotten your loved one. It is a critical point that you must stress to children. If you remember this important aspect, it may help you better to move on in life.

Normal reactions

It is a normal reaction on hearing of the death of a loved one to go in shock. So, shock may affect for a few days or maybe for a number of weeks. When you experience shock, you may feel empty, sick, dizzy, or numb. You may go through many unexpected emotions too. These are a result of shock. It is a completely common reaction. So, you may not be able to control and there is nothing wrong.

It may lead you into complete disbelief about what has occurred. You may not feel anything in the initial stages. It is a common reaction. However, you may later experience different emotions.

To deal with the loss

It may help to talk about the person who passed away. You may use the person’s name. Telling stories and expressing what the person may mean to you helps too. Thus far, spend time with your old friends and make new friends too. Keeping yourself socially active may help.

You need to accept changes in your family traditions and culture. Mostly, family roles change too. They key to all is to respect the personal grieving process. Hence, you must be mindful not to fit your emotions to other people’s expectations.  Give the same respect to other’s grief process too.


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