Bereavement Experience

Bereavement Experience

Bereavement is a natural feeling to a loss that we experience. It is universal in every culture. For example, after the death of a loved one, we experience bereavement. It simply means one is disadvantaged by death.

Every individual will react differently to each loss because every loss is different. Each person’s loss is a unique experience. Thus, there is no set rule for bereavement. However, there are many common responses when to losing something you love.

Extreme Grief

Bereavement is typically a state of extreme grief. It is also a period of mourning which leads to sadness, anxiety and loneliness. Therefore, it means the state of losing something very dear causes bereavement.

Bereavement normally relates to a loved one dying. However losing your job, ending a relationship or a divorce causes it too. Other causes may be life changes, lingering illness or workplace relations. There may be a variety of different reasons. Bereavement affects everyone sometime in their life.

Grief, Bereavement, Mourning

While the terms grief, bereavement, and mourning are usually used conversely, they have different meanings. Grief and mourning mean different parts of the loss.

The natural process of reacting to a loss is grief. It may be acknowledging a real loss like death of a loved one, social loss which may include workplace or relationship. Grief serve as thinking and pains that you experience following a loss.

Bereavement is the time after the loss. While grief and mourning occur in the bereavement period. The time used in bereavement may depend on the incidents of the loss. Thus the level of the connection.

Mourning is generally the process for adapting to a loss. Cultural faith, traditions and customs influence mourning. Mourning is the noticeable expressions and gesture of grieving. It may help to understand the different aspects of coping with loss.

Painful Reality

Any loss is a painful and tough reality. Sadly, almost everyone experiences a loss in their life time. There is no clear way to cope with the loss. Thus, people may behave differently to coping with the loss. Despite problematic and trying time, the experience may lead to personal growth.

The effects may come and go, and it may last for some time, maybe for years. Many factors affect how the persons may be coping. The person’s cultural and religious beliefs is key to their reaction to grief. Another important factor is the person’s personality and the relationship with the person who died. If the grief relates to sickness, then how the disease advance is critical. Furthermore, the person’s mental state, support arrangements, and coping readiness has an effect. Moreover, the person’s social and monetary position is also affecting with coping.

Emotions

Grief is a universal and traditional psychological response following a loss and death of a loved one. It includes a subtle stage that develop soon after experiencing a loss. The intense grief symptoms include sadness, anger and anxiety. There may be a craving to be with the person you lost, coupled with memories and thoughts of the person.

Expressing these feelings and emotions are natural reaction. While sharing similar manifestation, grief is disparate to depression. Grief does not need a clinical examination. Grief in known to decrease over a period of time. Therefore, rather than being dominant grief becomes more of a backdrop feeling.

Mourning Process

Mourning is a tedious and distressing process. It is an active part of bereavement. Mourning is your internal struggles of loss. Cultural traditions and rituals may impact the mourning process too. Mourning process may include wearing black or white, preparing for the funeral, sharing remembrance and stories of the loved one. This process may vary in different cultures or from person to person.

The mourning process may allow the family to reengage in their new lifestyle, feel comfortable and attain a piece of mind. Thus, the process of mourning is important. It allows family and friends to process emotions attached to loss or death. Dealing with mourning may form a long-term recollection of the moments. It helps accustom and training new ways of living without the loved one they cared for passionately.

Mourning is perhaps a drawn out and distressing development, however it is strong piece of bereavement. It helps retain happy moments of loved ones and feeling confident trying to live a happy life without them. Mourning is meaningful, otherwise there is a possibility and exposure to suffering from mental disorder or harm to the brain.

Different Faiths, Same Pain

Different Faiths, Same Pain

Grief is a common and emotional reaction to losing someone special and close.  They may be a family member, a friend, or an associate. Grief also occurs after a serious incident like sickness, trauma, a divorce, and a serious loss takes place in life.

Faith Related

Many religious and faith leaders may suggest that death rites and cultures develop over a period of time. These rites are to honour the deceased and to provide comfort to the family members. It also plays a part in calming down the mourners. Every religion and culture has its own death rites and rituals. Certain rituals are unique to one faith or religion. Whereas, many rituals may be common in many faiths. It is a reminder to all, that there is a universal path to healing.

Tragedy of Grief

Grief is something that none of us imagine until we reach it. Many people believe that if there is sudden death, that we go in shock. Normally we do not expect this shock to obliterate our body and mind.

A person can not know when they lose their loved ones. Passing away of a person you love may leave a void in life. There is a constant absence of the loved one that follows. These moments are uncompromising and become confronting and confusing at times. Grieving for the loss of a loved one is an irreversible tragedy.

Certain people who are grief-stricken may remain in depression for some time. However, most may move on in life. There will be people who may settle in their lives with the same routines. Others may develop new ‘living ethics’. They become resilient and may no longer be held hostage by emotional chaos. The most provocative learning is that more than 50 percent of mourners do not show any grief symptoms after a month of their loss. Some people may overcome the grief within a few days.

Rituals

Journal of Experimental Psychology researched many mourners who were emotionally much stronger than others in overcoming their grief quickly. They found it interesting that one thing was common. Researchers found that following the loss, the mourners performed what they refer to as ‘rituals’ in the study. However, they were not their typical rituals.

Most people may think of mourning rituals as to the public display of bereavement such as funerals, wearing black for a few months, or religious customs like ‘sitting shiva’ in Judaism. The object of these rituals may vary; however, Catholic Latinos see crying as a sign of respect at funerals. Tibetan Buddhists see it as a disruption. Certainly, public mourning rituals occur in all religions and cultures in some form.

Meaningful Way

The researchers requested 76 participants of their first study to write about the symbolic loss they had experienced. Whether it was at the end of the relationship or the death of a loved one. Furthermore, they were asked to explain how they coped with the loss. Moreover to describe if any rituals they would have followed. The researchers were surprised by the results. Many reported that the rituals they practiced were not the public ones. The rituals they practice were the private ones. About 15 percent of the participants described that rituals had a social element. It further records that 5 percent were religious rituals. Moreover, most of the rituals that were performed were personal and mostly performed alone in privacy.

The study states a person following a breakup, performed this ritual – he returned to the breakup location every month on the anniversary date to help him cope with the loss.

Another example is that a person collected all of the pictures they took as a couple during their relationship and destroyed them into small pieces. This included the pictures the person loved. Later they burnt the pictures.

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